Monday, December 24, 2007 

Understanding Body Language of your Girl Friend

No one can deny that body language plays a crucial role in catching girls’ attention–and keeping it. Nearly *75%* of signals women send is through body language--so you're not going to find out if she's into you from words alone!

Unfortunately, many men miss out on these signals, and thus miss out on the great girls. The good news is, if you CAN read a girl's signals, you stand out from the rest of guys, and make yourself all the more attractive! With that said, here are 6 signs that she's not into you, and 10 signs that she is!

BAD BODY LANGUAGE
1. Not making eye contact with you—looking around, eyeing her friends, looking anywhere but at you
2. Legs crossed—always a bad sign. This means she’s closing herself off to you
3. Arms crossed—This can convey annoyance and impatience. Definitely a bad sign.
4. Hands on her hips—This can also convey impatience. Not looking good.
5. Leaning backwards—It’s much better when a woman is leaning towards you. If you notice her leaning away from you, keeping her distance, it means you’ve gotten too close for her comfort and she’s not that into you, at least at this point.
6. A weak handshake—Do you shake a girl’s hands when you meet her? If you do and notice that hers is weak and she is quick to take back her hand, then she’s not very impressed.

GOOD BODY LANGUAGE
1. She looks down when you see her and smiles–A very good sign. She’s shy but wants you to come over to talk to her.
2. She’s twirling her hair around–Definitely into you.
3. Licks her lips–unless you can tell she’s screwing with you, this is a very good sign!
4. Open legs–Open legs, open mind. She’s open to hearing more from you–and who knows what else.
5. Sideways glance–The classic Hollywood flirtation, this is a coy, seductive way of showing her interest
6. Fondling a cylindrical object (cigarette, glass, etc.)–VERY good sign! And a hint of what she may have in mind for later on in the evening…
7. Fondling her shoe (shoe is slight off her foot, twisting her foot in circles)–This is that classic shy signal that girls use to display interest.
8. The "leg twine"–one leg pressed hard against the other to give the appearance of high muscle tone–very good sign
9. The head toss–If she tosses her hair back over her shoulders, this is definitely a good gesture.
10. Exposed wrists–If she’s interested in you, she will gradually display the smooth, soft skin of her wrists to a guy she’s interested in. Wrists are actually considered one of the more erotic areas of the body–so if she’s showing you this sexual area–go for it!

Hope these tips help you out. Remember, none of this will do you any good if you don't follow up on it! If a girl is showing interest, it's up to you to take the next step and show your attraction BACK to her. Tune in to my next article on what YOU as a man must do to successfully attract female attention, using flirtatious body language. Because it's your turn!

James Brito is the author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women." His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing women the world over. His immersion in international dating circles brings forth a gritty, no-nonsense approach to dating and developing relationships necessary for the modern single man.